University is often a bittersweet time for students, mirroring the feeling of graduation. The stress of exams, and a course you may not have always enjoyed are both finally over. You no longer have to put up with housemates using all of the milk, and don’t have to beg your landlord to fix the mould problem in the bathroom. However, the freedom of living away from home at university, and residing with your friends is, at times, unbeatable.
Graduation comes, and not only do you have to try and find a job, you also have to move back in with your parents. Thankfully, there are many ways to make the move back home as smooth as possible, meaning the only thing that you need to worry about is staying afloat in that graduate job pool.
Acknowledge that things have also changed for your parents
Of course, it’s a given that you should always respect your parents, however, the stress of moving back home may leave you feeling a little irritated. Acknowledge that it’s also going to be different for your parents and offer a helping hand, wherever possible. The dynamic of your relationship may have changed, and this change often means that your parents are left wondering whether to offer advice to you, or not. Accept that they only want is best for you, and while you’re trying to work out, yourself, what is best for you, at least remember tidy up after yourself. Being courteous, like this, will ease the transition of moving back in.
Source help elsewhere
If you need your parents’ helping hands for moving back home, it may be necessary to make more than one trip, depending on how much stuff you have accumulated during your study. This means that the move back home becomes stressful before it is even properly underway – consider a man and van hire in London, Manchester, Leeds, or wherever you are. Hiring someone to help transport your stuff will relieve you of at least one burden.
Mutually respect each other’s privacy
By moving back home, you may feel as though you’re losing your independence, and this can lead to you craving privacy. As frustrating as this may be, your parents are likely to feel the exact same way. You weren’t the only one with some newfound freedom during your time at university; they’re used to having the place to themselves.
Keep your own space
At university, you will no doubt have changed and grown as a person – and hopefully you have matured at least a little bit along the way! Politely reiterate to your parents that you want your space and intend on doing your own thing, however, ensure that you remain considerate. If you know your parents are preparing dinner and you aren’t going to be there, then give them a heads up.
Come to a compromise with other people in the house regarding everyone’s space and rules; ensure that you also respect their wishes. It may even prove helpful to have a cupboard in the kitchen that is for your use only. As your eating habits may have changed while you were at university, and by having your own cupboard, you retain that little bit of that independence while making things easier for others.